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This Week on Savage Love: Dan Gives Poly People the Last Word on Poly as Orientation


How lovely to see that Dan Savage was as good as his word when he remarked a week or so ago in the Slog Blog that he would be giving polyamorists a chance to have their say regarding a statement he made to Polyamorous PolyMath (“PP”) (scroll down to the second letter), saying that polyamory is something you do and not who you are.  The question of whether polyamorous counts as a sexual orientation added to the ensuing confusion mele’, but orientation indeed it is, though a relationship orientation.  It really doesn’t fit as a sexual orientation, unless you count liking to have sex [...]

Maria’s Pride and Arnold’s Dog House

I posted this political cartoon to Facebook today, remarking “Would that the public drew a more realistic conclusion from this than this “trend” being due merely to powerful, wealthy men being immoral. (Not that they aren’t, but there’s more to the story, say Sex at Dawn authors Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha.)

A poly friend of mine remarked, “I don’t see why they have to necessarily split over this…. Just acknowledge it and be open.”

Of course that’s what he and I would say and for good reason. But betrayal is still betrayal, especially when a long-time commitment [...]

Poly Advice for Newbies on Polyamory Weekly Podcast

I recently posted a review here of the awesome time I had at Polycamp NW in August. While I was there, I got an invitation from Cunning Minx to sit down and record some of what I contributed to the discussion in a workshop she had done earlier in the afternoon. It was a thoroughly gorgeous day, bright, warm sunshine and the glories of the Pacific Northwest all around us. We found a picnic table under a tree away from the crowd and had a very easy and natural conversation, which you can listen to here. [...]

What We Do or Who We Are? Round 2 with Dan Savage


Dan Savage has included more thoughts in today’s Slog Blog about the controversy he started last week in advising someone seeking his advice that polyamory is something people do and is not who they are as an identity.  He is still having a hard time grasping what many are saying.  I have written an in-depth response because the questions he asks, which seem simple to him, are anything but simple.  In comments I wrote the following.

…. Dan, I think a key component of understanding this question is the context in which died-in-the-wool (if you will) polyamorists live out their [...]

See Me Bare It All Next Wednesday at Bare! in DC


If you like a good bawdy story or six, are in the metro DC area and feel like coming out and cheering me on, I’ll be getting my naughty story cherry popped at “Bare! true stories of sex, desire, and romance,” next Wednesday, November 7 at:    Black Fox Lounge, 1723 Connecticut Avenue NW, Washington, D.C. 20009  202/483-1723

$8 door. ASL Interpretation available on request.

This month Jefferson and his cohort have chosen storytellers who will reveal the choices that have left us with terms of elation, regret or resignation:  Vijai Nathan, Kevin T Phillips, Anita Wagner Illig and two New Yorkers, Kambri Crews [...]

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