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This Week on Savage Love: Dan Rejects Polyamorous as Identity

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I have to admit I’m disappointed in Dan Savage today after reading his response to Polyamorous Polymath (“PP”) in his latest column.   Dan does not identify as polyamorous (he and hubby being “monogamish”).  Instead of addressing PP’s concerns, Dan quickly steps all over PP’s idea that polyamory is his identity and not just a lifestyle.  Dan tells PP that polyamory is about what people do and not who they are.  In fact, he’s vehement about that, and about polyamory not being a sexual orientation, which seems to be his supporting argument against polyamory as sexual identity.  (Protect your turf much, Dan?) PP is a man who finds himself in a difficult poly/mono relationship trying to [...]

Dan Savage Responds to the Poly-As-Identity/Orientation Controversy

With regard to last week’s post about Dan Savage’s advice to a polyamorous person trying to cope with a monogamous partner’s pressure to be monogamous, it seems that he’s been hearing quite a lot from people with all sorts of perspectives.  He references this today in a blog post: “I said ‘no’ in last week’s Savage Love, kicking off a shitstorm in the comments thread, in my e-mail inbox, and here and there on the interwebs. (Even the right-wing nutjobs have taken notice.) At least one poly person agrees with me: There are a few problems with describing polyamory as [...]

This Week on Savage Love: Dan Gives Poly People the Last Word on Poly as Orientation

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How lovely to see that Dan Savage was as good as his word when he remarked a week or so ago in the Slog Blog that he would be giving polyamorists a chance to have their say regarding a statement he made to Polyamorous PolyMath (“PP”) (scroll down to the second letter), saying that polyamory is something you do and not who you are.  The question of whether polyamorous counts as a sexual orientation added to the ensuing confusion mele’, but orientation indeed it is, though a relationship orientation.  It really doesn’t fit as a sexual orientation, unless you count liking to have sex with [...]

What We Do or Who We Are? Round 2 with Dan Savage

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Dan Savage has included more thoughts in today’s Slog Blog about the controversy he started last week in advising someone seeking his advice that polyamory is something people do and is not who they are as an identity.  He is still having a hard time grasping what many are saying.  I have written an in-depth response because the questions he asks, which seem simple to him, are anything but simple.  In comments I wrote the following.

…. Dan, I think a key component of understanding this question is the context in which died-in-the-wool (if you will) polyamorists live out their [...]